I want to stop accommodating him oab not updating
If you are having sex with a guy and he isn’t interested in investing his emotions, his time or his loyalty, you are in the bangzone. He will likely not reply until he wants something from you as well. But even great guys will fall into the convenient relationship. Men are simply better at standing up for their needs in a non-confrontational way. You are just a bang, just a notch, just someone to kill time with, get his rocks off with until he finds someone who can really keep his attention. Even amazing guys will take something given freely, especially if you package it up as being all fun and no work. Women are taught to be compliant and so we often won’t stand up for ourselves, or we will do it in a bitchy, confrontational way. Do what you want to do, and don't get swayed by the situation or the other person.Do you agree with these rules, and would you add any to the list?Accommodating, compliant girls are the best kind of girls for the bangzone. They have friends, sisters, ex-girlfriends and mothers! That’s what you are doing when you are the accommodating chick. You may think you are the unicorn because you are doing everything you can to be compatible. Compatible isn’t “the same” and compatible doesn’t come without conflicts. And while you think it might be the foot in the door to girlfriend territory, you just wrote your own ticket to the bangzone. Reward him for his efforts by sharing more of you, giving more, opening up more. We all get jealous feelings sometimes, but ruining a friendship isn’t worth it. I mean, if you’re really insecure, just make a list of things you like about yourself. Your BFF might have some qualities that you don’t, but that doesn’t mean she’s any better or prettier than you.
If you lay these rules out at the time of breakup, then he can't say: "Why are you ignoring my calls?
Players gonna play, and girl, when you’re not real, you’re playing. Just like how, when a “nice guy” buys you dinner, or listens to your emotional downpour, it doesn’t entitle him to sex. You being a complex, caring, interesting person is what will earn his affection and interest. You’ve sacrificed (too much) to be with him and now that you are finally wanting something from him (even just a small thing) and he’s not budging. And he feels like you changed the agreement on him out of nowhere.
A player will fake a relationship to get uncomplicated sex. Faking that you’re chill and have no expectations beyond easy sex when what you want is a relationship. You would have been better off showing him who you are and letting him bail if he doesn’t like you. You used to be the chill girl – the one with no needs and no expectations!
If you are being fake, he can feel it and he will immediately bangzone you.
The bangzone for women is similar to the friendzone for men.
Compatible means you can disagree openly, you can respect his different needs and wants and you expect him to respect yours as well. When you try to change the rules like that, men will do one of two things: You will cry to your friends and obsessively analyze what you could have done wrong, and you will be baffled because for all outward appearances you did everything right! If you really like him, if he’s a great guy, then make him earn your attention and time.