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Moreover, the "GBF" (or gay best friend) and his "fag hag" — actual language used by the app in depiction of its future users — are reductive stereotypes that can't possibly capture the complexity of real people and their real personalities.
Luckily, the app's developer, a self-identified middle-aged woman and "old school hag" named Gini Garbick, heard the critiques she was getting and actually listened to the complaints. ) She took down the app's website, which was promoting its January 2016 release, and is currently rebranding to be a more inclusive venture, hinging less on tired stereotypes.
But beyond that, the idea for this app is kind of misguided.
As multiple outlets have pointed out, the idea of an app that helps women find "her gays" is super problematic.
I could feel my discomfort levels rising, but—self-admittedly—I often have hyperbolic notions of masculinity so I tried to shirk my confusion. The next 15 minutes or so were fine but as we got closer to our destination and began to look for a parking space, he blew my whole mind when he said “NO he don’t!
But THEN, Lil Kim’s “Crush On You” came on, and this good sir bypassed all of Biggie’s part and Lil Cease’s lyrics and decided instead to passionately rap every word of Lil Kim’s verse, including the “I’ll be undressed in the bra all see through” portion. ” I turned toward him with the blankest of blank stares and asked, “What?
” To which he replied, “Did you see what he was wearing?
And anything that puts a woman in charge of choosing her own adventure (romantic or otherwise) is definitely great.A few months ago, I went on a date with a gentleman who really had me scratching my head.When I initially met him, I can recall thinking that he was perhaps more sensitive (aka, feminine) than most of the guys I engage.Presumably a straight women/gay man friendship is based on much, much, much more than their mutual interest in dick and how to get it.To reduce them to this is demeaning to both parties and frames the whole relationship around some off-screen embodiment of the patriarchy (or: a date-able man).
How is it that women comfortably date men who appear obviously gay?